(this is an edited repost of something I posted in Talk but got no replies

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Hi. I joined awhile back but became inactive when I was offered a full time job where I was working as a temp as an administrative assistant (basically i was temping for a year but finally got offered the full time job). I have survived major layoffs and am doing 2x the work than usual. I don't mind. I enjoy my work and the challenge. Anyway so my VA aspirations have been put aside for now.
However, my husband and i are trying to conceive our first child. I want to be able to stay home with our children once we start having them. That is one reason virtual assistant seemed so appealing at first. However, I read the 2 second commute and found it very informative but very overwhelming. I am not sure I am up to owning my own business. I basically just wanted to work part time while my main job was my kids.
My husband hasn't been laid off and we don't expect him to be (his company is doing well), but based on our current living and bills there is no way i could quit my job once we had a baby. This is very disappointing to me and almost makes me not want to have kids at all until we can afford to have me stay home with them. So, with that realization I am back!
I was just curious if anyone just worked as a freelance to a. help other VAs or b. just worked part time at their own business regularly successfully?
I would also love to hear from stay at home mom VAs and how that fit for them. I work full time and take care of the house and animals and that wears me out enough now I can't imagine adding a child to the mix (my husband's idea of helping is hiring someone to come in once every other week to help with some cleaning, which is nice but that doesn't keep me from having to clean the rest of the time).
Thank you in advance for any comments!