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Is this a man's world?

Posted 07-02-2010 at 12:38 AM by RhondaHolscher  
Some would say yes, some would say no we have come to far for that. I say it is what we make it.
If you have any doubts that we live in a society controlled by men, try reading down the index of contributors to a volume of quotations, looking for women's names. - Elaine Gill http://womenshistory.about.com/library/qu/blqulist.htm
I personally grew up in a world controlled by men. Being raised in a Baptist home with a father who was a Deacon in the church I was raised on very conservative and traditional values. Men were and still are very much the controlling factor in this environment.

In school however we were being taught about women's rights and and women’s liberation. This led to a somewhat confusing message for me as I was growing up.

I still hold to my believes that were taught by the church and by my father and mother. I am somewhat conservative, and do believe that the man should be the spiritual leader in the home (I know this is causing some conflicting views in your mind) but please hear me out. The Bible teaches that the husband is the head of the house and the wife is to be his help meat. I hold to those beliefs, but being a woman who has since been divorced I have learned that a woman cannot always depend on a man to be that spiritual leader.

What do you do when you do not have a husband to be the spiritual leader or who will not be the spiritual leader. You must take it upon yourself to lead your home in the ways of the Bible. Read, study, and pray for knowledge and guidance.

In the world of business this can get confusing as well. Being raised that women are not to usurp authority over a man this can get tricky in business. However a woman is just as capable of doing most of the jobs men do, if not all of them. Does it mean a woman should do those jobs? That is up to each individual woman. I personally would not want to do many of the jobs men do. Men are generally stronger and capable of doing the harder labor jobs than woman, and often these jobs are not the type of job a lady would want to do. I would not want to work with a bunch of men where I would be putting myself in a position to be compromised. Yes, I know there are laws in place to protect both women and men from sexual harassment and what not, but even still why would a woman want this.

It is okay for a woman to stay home and care for her family. Is it not? Okay, how can she do this if she is single and raising a family? There are solutions.

I started my own virtual business that allows me to earn an income, pay my bills, and stay at home and raise my children myself.
There are many opportunities out there for virtual work. My business is a Virtual Office. I am doing Administrative Assistant services online. This has a opened many opportunities to me. Not only can I work from home, but I can work with anyone, anywhere in the world.

This is not the only thing you can do from home. Might I suggest that you do some research and see what people are doing and see what interests you.
A few of the things that people do from home are:
  • Bookkeeping/Accounting
  • Administrative Assistance
  • E-commerce
  • Web Development
  • Social Networking
  • Blogging
  • Writing (web content, articles, ezines, etc.)
There are many other opportunities for the entrepreneurial spirit.

I would love to hear from you. Tell me about your business, opportunities you are exploring, or your thoughts on this blog.
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I totally agree with you. I do believe that men are the head and should be the head of the household, but when there is not man, you will have to step in and take the lead. My husband is the head of our household and although he takes my views into consideration, he ultimately has the final say and I’m okay with that. We get along very well.

Anyway, if I could I would love to stay home and take care of the family and work from home, but when we can’t do that we can do like most of us are doing working full-time and starting a part-time VA business, if and when we have enough clients that we can finally work out of our homes.

Love your blog!
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Posted 07-02-2010 at 11:16 AM by
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Kelly, Thank you for reading my blog. I am glad you enjoyed it.

Hey what part of FL are you from? I may be coming down in a couple weeks. My cousin is getting married and my aunt is getting sicker so I have two really good reasons to go, just trying to work out the logistics and see if I can make it work. If I go it will be near Clearwater, they live in Largo. PM me to make this Conversation private if you like. - Rhonda
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Posted 07-06-2010 at 04:31 AM by RhondaHolscher RhondaHolscher is offline
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I appreciate your perspective. I think women have come a long way over the past 60 years and are more capable to do many of the jobs men have done and more independent and willing to do the job. Since women's lib, the role of the woman in the home and in society has changed. My question to you is, do you feel it is a good change?
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Posted 12-01-2010 at 06:49 PM by damon1276 damon1276 is offline
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Whether or not I believe this is a good change is irrelevant, but to answer your question. I am not convinced this is a good change. Unfortunately it has changed and we have to decide how we are going to peronally deal with it. I do not consider myself a women's liber, but I do believe that women should have certain rights just as other minority's should have those same rights.

While I do believe that the man should be the spiritual leader in the home I also believe that that same man should consider his wife an equal partner when making those oh so important decisions. He wouldn't like it if his wife went out and made a very important decision without his input, and most women do not like it when their husband does likewise.

It is a difficult balance, but with a good marriage and good spiritual foundation I believe it can be accomplished. I have seen it accomplished so I know it's possible.

Many men unfortunately still hold to the "I am the kind of my castle" aspect of this and this can make it difficult for women. This is sad when this happens. Women deserve to be treated with respect and deserve to have a say in their own lives and the lives of their families.

This being said I am a divorced woman which was something that has not been easy and still is not easy, but I have to take on that role of being the head of my house as I am the only adult the children have to lead and guide them in the right direction. I should say that I was raised that divorce is wrong and I did everything that I could avoid it and some of those things were not in our best interests (the children and I). Needless to say we did end up in divorce and my children are being raised in a way I never intended, but I am doing my very best to teach them the right things and the way of the Lord.

I'm not sure if I have answered your question, but I would say that is not all peachy king with women's movements. I feel some women take it to far, and I try to find that balance that keeps me in the center of the Lord's will while raising my family on my own.
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Posted 12-01-2010 at 08:34 PM by RhondaHolscher RhondaHolscher is offline
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After re-reading my last comment I realized it might be misleading. I just want to add this one thing. I do believe that women's lib has brought many good changes. It is not all bad, but I believe as with most things we have a tendancy to take things to far.
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Posted 06-19-2011 at 02:04 AM by RhondaHolscher RhondaHolscher is offline
 

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